Recovery isn’t an easy process, and the various misconceptions and myths about the process can further make it difficult. These misconceptions create stigmas, and make things even more difficult for people who need help to get it from the right quarters. Some people would also choose to remain silent rather than get help because they are afraid of being judged by friends, family members or their co-workers.
A couple of these misconceptions are now even regarded as facts. Below are some of these misconceptions and the truth about what actually exists. The explanation also aids a deeper and clearer understanding of what sobriety entails.
1. If you Relapse, you are a failure
It is pertinent to note that even though several people fall into a relapse phase, it isn’t a recovery requirement. Also, the fact that a person relapses isn’t an indication that he or she wasn’t committed to getting sober or didn’t put in enough efforts. That a person relapses make the person a failure, neither does it mean the person no longer has a chance at getting sober.
Getting sober sometimes requires more than just a single attempt. Thus, the fact that a person relapsed shouldn’t mark the end of the recovery journey. Regardless of the number of times, getting back and giving it another shot is the most important thing.
2. Recovery is Always Easy
Recovery isn’t an easy process. It is a combination of hard work and resilience, and ought to be a constant and consistent process. Staying sober through hard work opens the sober person to a lot of possibilities. A former alcoholic or drug addict who is able to remain sober for a long time becomes able to make active contributions to the society in different ways.
3. Alcoholics and drug addicts are not good people
Anybody can be an addict, irrespective of your finances or your level of spirituality. There is a common misconception that people who are addicts are bad and weak-willed. It isn’t a lie that people who are addicted to drug or alcohol can go the extra length to get whatever it is they need to have that feeling of normalcy. However, their dependency on the chemical is often influenced by the brain changes caused by the prolonged alcohol or drug abuse. What these people need is treatment and not punishment.
4. Sober people can no longer have fun
This is arguably one of the popular misconceptions, particularly for young people on the recovery journey. A lot of young people avoid going through the recovery phase because they assume that is an end to their fun life. Several people begin taking alcohol and using drugs because it makes them feel good and see it as fun. However, the fun soon turns into a necessity and comes with emotional, spiritual and physical consequences. Fun is no longer the order of the day and addiction takes over.
Being sober, contrary to this misconception, isn’t boring. When people become sober, they end up finding out that they have other interests that are not alcohol or drug based. They discover that they enjoy skydiving, attending concerts and camping, among other fun things. There are fun and safe activities for people who are sober.
5. Sober people only talk about their former addiction
People who get sober move on with their lives as being stuck in the past doesn’t help matters. It is very important to bear in mind where one is coming from. However, it is even more important to consciously make efforts not to go back to that place.
6. You need to avoid any gathering where there is alcohol or drugs
It is true that a sober person is advised to keep a distance from people, things or places where those trigger items might be present at the onset of the recovery journey. However, after a period when you have become sober, you can go to places where alcohol is served provided that you have clean motives. There are places such as birthday parties or holiday parties that you attend even knowing that alcohol is served, but you know that you can resist the temptation.
The length of your sobriety often has a direct impact on acquiring coping skills that can help you remain sober. However, if you are just beginning your recovery journey and cannot resist alcohol, it is advisable that you avoid such gatherings.